The Big Idea
Every spouse needs to have solid, no compromise boundaries with the opposite sex.
A big part of my practice the last 30 years has been recovery from adultery. I have guided hundreds of couples through the recovery process. I wrote an entire book on my recovery process: What to Do When Your Spouse Says I Don't Love You Anymore. The good news is, complete recovery and a brand-new, better than ever marriage is possible.
The bad news is, adultery is a massive betrayal and causes a deep wound that takes time and tremendous effort to heal. There is no pain like the pain of adultery. You want to avoid this pain at all costs. And, you can avoid it.
In the next few blogs, I will address how to prevent the sin of adultery. It can be prevented!
My first point is that adultery can happen to anyone. Anyone! Over the years, I can't tell you how many godly Christian husbands and wives I have seen fall into sexual sin. Pastors, pastor's wives, persons on church staffs or parachurch staffs, church leaders, those who serve faithfully in their churches.
All these spouses who sinned in the sexual area loved Jesus and worked to grow spiritually. Every single one of them told me: "Doc, I never dreamed I would be an adulterer. It was never going to happen to me." Their spouses were shocked to discover the adultery. It was the very last thing these spouses expected their partners to do.
So, never think that you are immune to adultery. No one is.
If you have been or are now involved in sexual sin, get my I Don't Love You Anymore book and get into the recovery process. If you know someone who is in sexual sin, recommend the book to that person.
Next week, I will define adultery. It is not only having sex with a member of the opposite sex. There are a number of categories you need to be aware of.