The Big Idea
When you pray as a couple regularly, all three areas of marital intimacy improve dramatically: spiritual, emotional, and physical.
One in two marriages end in divorce. One in eighteen thousand marriages end in divorce among couples who pray together regularly. One in eighteen thousand! And I want to talk to that one couple to see if they were actually praying together.
When you pray together, you reach a deep level of spiritual intimacy. Picture yourselves sitting together, holding hands, and praying. The world is shut out, and it's just the three of you(you, your spouse, and God)connecting spiritually. It's beautiful. It's very intimate. God will bless you for doing it.
When you pray together, you reach a deep level of emotional intimacy. Prayer creates a deeper mood and warms you up for conversation. When you stop praying, you can now talk about the people and concerns you just prayed about. So, you "bridge" from prayer to more intimate and personal conversations.
When you pray together, you reach a deep level of physical intimacy. Now, I have the attention of the husbands! Prayer leads to spiritual and emotional intimacy, which in turn lead to better physical intimacy.
Don't make prayer an option in your marriage. Make prayer a necessity. Not only will you not get divorced, you will(actually, God will)create a strong and intimate relationship.
The Action Plan
1. Do you pray together regularly as a couple? Why not? Tell your spouse what would keep you from praying together. Are you willing to work through your obstacles and begin praying with your spouse?
2. Did your parents pray together regularly? If you're not sure, call them and find out. If they did, ask them how they did it and the impact prayer has had on their marriage,.
3. Do you know any couples who pray together regularly? If you do, call them and ask them how they do it and the impact prayer has had on their marriage.
4. Agree, right now, to read and apply the next two Marriage Blogs on how to pray together.
This will be my last Marriage Blog of the Year. As a hard-working psychologist, I need an end of the year vacation. This is the blog equivalent of a T.V. show cliffhanger. Tune in again the first week of January 2012 to find out the specifics of praying together. Merry Christmas!
This blog is based on my book, A Marriage After God's Own Heart