The Big Idea
With God at the center of your marriage, your love will be permanent and passionate.
Shulamith, Solomon's wife, gives a wonderful description of their love in Song of Solomon 8:6-7. It is a permanent
love: ". . . like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm"; "Many waters cannot quench love, nor will rivers overflow
it." As important as permanence is, it's not enough for a great love. Many couples stay married. . . and are miserable.
Shulamith and Solomon also enjoy a passionate love: "Its flashes are flashes of fire." Their passion is as white hot
as a blazing fire. Whoa! Who doesn't want a passionate love like this? I want it. My wife, Sandy(the blonde), wants
it. I know you want it, too.
The good news is, you can have a love that is both passionate and permanent. And, the way to do it is given to us
right smack in the middle of Shulamith's description of her love with Solomon: ". . . the very flame of the Lord". The
flame of their love comes from God. God is the source!
To draw on God as the source of your permanent passion, you must put Him at the center of your marriage. The next
four Blogs will focus on exactly how to do this.
The Action Plan
1. Think of a Christian couple you know who have a great love and have been married over twenty years. Sit down
with them, you and your spouse, and ask them how they stay in love. Ask them how they involve God in their marriage.
2. Talk about how your parents did, or did not, keep God at the center of their marriages. If you're not sure how God
factored into their marriages as you grew up, call and ask them.
3. Be honest about where God is in your marriage. Do you keep your relationship with God to yourself or do you
share it with your spouse? If you don't share it, what keeps you from sharing it?
4. If you are interested in exploring how to put God at the center of your marriage and share Him as a couple, agree
to read the next four Blogs with an open mind.
This Blog is based on my book, Kiss Me Like You Mean It.